Looking at cute animals to improve your marital satisfaction may sound a bit corny, but a new study says it works.
This study published in Psychological Science examined the possibility of rekindling a marital spark. 144 couples who were married 5 years or less were split into two groups. One group viewed endearing photos like puppies and bunnies alongside their spouse’s photo. The other group also say images of their spouse, but the photos accompanying them were neutral, like a picture of a button. Those who viewed uplifting images had greater improvements in marital satisfaction.
Participant looked at their photos every three days for six weeks. Over time, the positive images helped recondition and change attitudes. Basically their minds were retrained by linking positive stimulus and happy feelings to their spouse.
Couples start off with deep love and passion, and as time marches on it’s normal for those emotions to change. But too many people see this as a sign their marriage is failing.
1. Communication is very important so talk openly and deeply about personal matters. This helps you to stay connected.
2. It’s normal to have disagreements, but you can still be gentle and kind. Anger and contempt are linked to higher risks for divorce.
3. Life is busy, especially with kids. Take time just for the two of you and schedule date nights.
4. Know that it takes more than love. You need commitment, respect, patience, affection, honesty and you must make a conscious effect for your marriage to succeed.
Roughly 40 to 50 percent of American marriages end in divorce. That’s pretty high. If you keep having the same argument over and over, that’s a good sign you should seek outside help. All relationships face challenges and have their ups and downs. It’s up to you to decide if and when you need help. You can seek out trained professionals like psychologists or you can look for local marital education programs.
